The Best LinkedIn Rejection Of All Time?

I know I have a strong personality, and yet, I was a bit taken aback to receive the email below from a former coworker. The only thing that’s clear from this is that one of us doesn’t understand social networking (probably me). And that this coworker was in love with me.

from redacted@newworkaddress.cpm
to A—- C—-
date Wed, Jan 7, 2009 at 8:45 AM
subject RE: Join my network on LinkedIn

My apologies for not replying to you sooner! I must have been busy doing nothing or, as you more eloquently put it at one point, doing “jack shit.” Honestly, I am very surprised that you would want to have me be part of your LinkedIn network given that your opinion of me is so low, as evidenced by the additional comment that “I don’t know anything.”

While your opinion of me is low, I certainly am glad I had the, shall we say, ‘experience’ of working with you. It is not often that someone can witness a person such as you, in action. Thank you for reminding me that the best opportunities for learning actually come from watching those who do nothing, learn nothing and remain unevolved as human beings. Priceless.



P.S. Oh, and NO, I do not want you as part of my network, I have a reputation to uphold.

On November 18, 2008 7:10 PM, A—- C—- wrote:
Since you are a person I trust, I wanted to invite you to join my network on LinkedIn

Some notes:
1. Notice that she waited about 6 weeks to respond? 6 weeks and this is the best that she could come up with?
2. Although I felt the way described in the first paragraph and people knew I felt this way, I don’t use the phrase “jack shit”, and never discussed my feelings with the former coworker, so the use of quotations is erroneous.
3. My biased opinion suggests that the third sentence of the second paragraph is nonsensical.
4. Priceless?

I didn’t respond. I knew that immediately after hitting send, I would think of a much better response. What do you think I should do? What’s the best response you can think of? Remember to be civil.

The Best LinkedIn Rejection Of All Time?

0 thoughts on “The Best LinkedIn Rejection Of All Time?

  1. kris says:

    that’s pretty amazing. you should just print it out, frame it, and hang it above your desk. clearly, you are a powerful person and you’ve changed her life.


  2. tracy says:

    Why DID you try to link to this person in the first place? I don’t understand why you would want to link to someone who didn’t do their work.


  3. Sam says:

    I have no idea who you are, who that message is from, but given your “delusions of grandeur” title, I’m inclined to give you my independent and objective perspective – my 2c.

    Suck it up, deal with it and move on.

    Rather than trying to “get back”, perhaps you should reflect on why someone had an obviously caustic reaction to your networking attempt.

    Perhaps – just perhaps – it’s possible, and you just don’t realize it, that you bring out the worst in some people? Maybe it’s possible that something you said or did really hurt your co-worker? Maybe it’s possible that you’re one of those people who makes co-workers feel bad about themselves, decreases productivity and induces qualified employees to quit, regardless of your individual effectiveness.

    You self proclaim to be a “strong personality”. Perhaps your perception is misplaced and others perceive you as what’s termed a “workplace asshole” (Go look up the book on Amazon). The fact that you’ve taken the time to post this message online and solicit comments, rather than letting go, indicates that you’re having a hard time dealing with mere online blip.

    Lastly, please refrain from thinking this person was in “love with you”. It comes of as a manifestation of a rather juvenile defensive reaction, and perhaps is the kind of attitude that elicited the above reaction in the first place.

    PS : If you were actually in an intimate relationship with him/her, remember that ex-g/f, ex-b/f dont usually make good networking connections. There’s a reason you’re not in that relationship anymore.


  4. lawest says:

    i know who you are and i too am inclined to give you my non-objective, independent 2 pence.

    suck it up, ac. work on getting that heart a little colder.

    perhaps – just perhaps – you didn’t realize how insane this coworker was at the time you linked her. and it’s possible that maybe just maybe her syco reactions to email and other communications are what made her no longer a part of your company?

    maybe it’s possible, just maybe, it might be possible maybe that she’s one of the many candy ass, low performing mutants that think they should get congratulated for coming into work. by chance, just perhaps by chance, was your “strong personality” mistaken for being honest and candid?

    and if in fact, you did post this because you do feel bad or are “having a hard time dealing”, then could we ever really ever just ever tag you as a “workplace asshole”? is there a book i could get on amazon to help me assess this?

    i mean, let’s face it. this chick is clearly in love with you.

    and if you were in an intimate relationship with her, i hope to god! your wife, never, ever, ever, ever, finds out about it.


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